Look at Me – Can You See Me, Now?

In an age where everyone has a megaphone, a blog, a FB; we  have to admit it feeds our ego.  (by the way, this is a bad thing) Very slowly we are becoming more and more entitled giving into  a victim – mindset where our thinking is all about how things affect us. Then, when we get yelled at; or slighted; or treated unfairly (and it happens to everyone) we think:   “Don’t you know who I am?” “How dare you?” It seems our view is myopic… The movie “Hidden Figures”,  beautifully tells the true story of 3 African American women who who served as the brains behind John Glen’s orbit around the earth. But, the power of the movie lay in the strength of character of these three women who overcame incredibly adverse conditions in the workplace. They understood they weren’t demeaned just because someone treated them unfairly.  Their inner strength and confidence  of who they were was stronger than the assaults that came against them.  Even when credit was being given to others, there was no whining, no complaining…just a dignified sense of restraint and a willingness to persevere with grace.  They were not focused on being offended because they had the wisdom to know that the key to their success was in their ability to exercise prudence instead of giving into their emotions. In our current workplace culture , we may not see overt negative behavior and resentment, but it’s there:  tempers that are simmering beneath the surface, stress related illnesses, burnout.  We aren’t  helping people, when in their  development opportunities, we  solely focus on their strengths;...

Paradox of Silence

If you’re a gardener, you know there comes a time when it is necessary to weed the garden. Removing the weeds gives each plant more space to grow. Otherwise, weeds choke out the plant and the fruit shrivels up and dies. So it is in our own lives. We spend an inordinate amount of time listening: to others, to clatter, to mindless conversations, to noise. What does this incessant clamor cost us?  How much does it hamper our inner voice? Our ability to think critically? How important is it to turn off all of the shouting voices and spend, even for just a few minutes, in solitude? In one of my favorite books, Gift From The Sea, by Anne Morrow Lindbergh, she writes: “Certain springs are tapped when we are alone. The artist knows he must be able to create; the writer, to work out his thoughts; the musician to compose; the saint, to pray…What matters is that one be, for a time, inwardly attentive.” Sharpen your listening skills by finding time to quiet the outer world and listen to your inner voice. There you might find creativity, strength, perspective,...

Have You Forgotten This Power?

Did previous generations suffer from the angst of being overwhelmed?  Did the early 19th century pioneers, who faced survival issues every day,  run around frantically filling their days with meaningless activity?  Probably not;  because if priorities (food and shelter) were ignored, their fate was sure.  Discretionary choices were luxuries only a few were afforded. 21st century Americans have many discretionary choices.  I often encounter people who have forgotten they have many choices and that they have the power to choose among those choices. Everything we do, say, think, feel, eat, buy, who we spend time with; is a choice we have made.  When we forget we have the power to choose we let the ‘tyranny of the moment’  dictate what we do, say and how we feel. Greg McKeown, in his book, Essentialism, says ‘The ability choose cannot be taken away or even given away–it can only be forgotten.” When we forget to choose, we start thinking like victims:  I don’t have time, I have to do this, I can’t say no, what will people think, etc.. What price are you paying to say yes to everything? Besides being overwhelmed and frustrated?  I believe it affects two very important areas: Our character: when we make and break promises to ourselves, we learn that we cannot depend on our decisions.   We learn that we don’t have very much self-discipline and that is a self-fulfilling prophecy. Beyond the personal character issue, being driven by outside demands denies us the option of focusing on what we want, what we deem as important: family, friends, time to enjoy, time to reflect and plan,...

What Executives Can Look For To Spot Emerging Leaders

I’m often asked the best way to spot  up and coming leaders.  While never an exact science, there are specific traits you can look for to find the individual that has the potential to be an effectual leader.  The second column is the opposite side of the coin. Positive Attitude                                                                      Negative, blaming, victim-thinking attitude Humility                                                                                    Does not take criticism well, arrogant, doesn’t see need to learn Potential to Grow                                                                    Small-minded; limited vision; resists change Perseverance                                                                          Leaves projects hanging; gives up too soon Reliability                                                                                 Is inconsistent when fulfilling commitments,  meeting deadlines Resilient                                                                                Takes failure and mistakes personally; does not rebound Person of Integrity                                                             Does not follow through or  follow up These are the non-negotiables:   skills, experience and performance should be examined only after this character audit has been passed with flying...

We Interrupt This Blog Series for a Special Announcement

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, AMERICA! I pledge allegiance to the flag of the United States of America and to the republic for which it stands, one nation under God, with liberty and justice for all. Even in the midst of divisiveness and uncertainty, we remember on July 4th that liberty and justice are virtues that the electorate must vigilantly preserve. America is still the greatest country in which to...
Power of A Team: Team Maturity

Power of A Team: Team Maturity

This is the third in a series on the most important efficiencies of a team. The maturity of a team is based on several factors:  the length of time a team has been together,  the individual maturity level and the emotional fitness of each member. Teams who have a revolving door of people suffer greatly in three conditions: identity, trust, and shared knowledge about one another and the team’s purpose.  In a group of people who have been together for a long time you will find a strong sense of identity, a high level of trust,  an understanding of strengths, weaknesses and awareness of team efficacy. On the subject of the maturity level of team members and emotional fitness, I have seen the range of dysfunction to high performing.  In many of these experiences, I noticed the leader based expectations only on the fact that the team members have a strong work ethic and have industry expertise. But when a leader and members ignore or refuse to address immaturity and selfish behavior, the environment is ripe with jealousy, confusion about priorities and they  struggle when they  face challenges, uncertainty, failure, and the ability to delivers results consistently. When the dysfunctional team does achieves its goals,  the wins are often  hollow and leaves behind a trail of exhausted, burnt-out and empty individuals. The answer here is one you’ve heard before:  growth and development are critical to the overall organizational strategy and organizational health.  The effort to develop individuals will always benefits people, productivity and profit. If you are looking for an opportunity to grow your team leadership skills, read about...